This is when we have wronged someone else. We are all born as good people, but sometimes along the way we intentionally or unintentionally hurt other people by our actions, inactions, or words. This weighs on our conscience, as most people prefer to live a moral life free from pain, regret or suffering. We might insult someone during an argument, we may cheat or lie to get our way. We may hide things we have done or are ashamed of. And this starts at a very young age. Toddlers often know they are not supposed to hit other kids, yet they do it anyway, often out of frustration in not being able to express themselves. And when asked whether they hit the other child they will often lie to protect themselves from punishment.
Asking for forgiveness is even harder than forgiving others. When we can forgive others, it’s usually just a conscious decision on our part. We decide to forgive someone, we make up our mind, we do it, and then we move on. The other person does not even need to be involved. But, when we ask for forgiveness, this is when we need to eat humble pie. We need to put ourselves out there, be vulnerable, and accept that your apology may be rejected. If your apology is sincere, then even if they do not accept it you have done what you can. You can always try again later, as time heals the hurt, but it’s one step closer to you feeling better. And always remember, it’s not just about you clearing your conscience for your own piece of mind. It’s about doing what is right, moral and ethical.
CHALLENGE
Find something that has
been gnawing away at
you and apologize for it.
You can start small, with
how you snapped at your
kids, or spouse or friend.